Becoming the Sage

As I sit and reflect upon my goal of writing ‘the 12 days of Christmas’ blog, I must acknowledge that it has been both enlightening and daunting.  It has taken a lot of soul searching and reflection. Today I know I am writing about the images from my Life’s roadmap, but how do I tell the story? The images or moments in time; one being in a church preaching and the other, a much older version of me on stage teaching.  I just want to preface this, as this was thirty years ago, it seemed like a lot older version of me. Today, I would reframe that to read a mature version of me; as age and time do not seem as relevant as they did back then.  So how do I share my journey?  What were the key components, the learnings and the decision made to be able to embrace my destiny? Was it easy? No! Was their failure? Yes!  Did I learn? Yes!  

At the same time as writing these 12 days I have been working on my new website Lynbaird.com where people can access online courses, pre-order my book and make booking for individual appointments.  This goes live on the 6th of January, Epiphany Day. One of the processes was to write a page about me. Wow, was that hard!  In my culture and era, it has been frowned upon to want to stand out. In Australia we even have a thing called ‘the tall poppy syndrome” which is where people of high status are resented, attacked, cut down or criticised because of their achievements, often people would question on their right to be in that position or question how did that person get to that position. Who did they know? Who did they bribe?  Rarely do people celebrate or congratulate them on their hard work, the risks they took and the sacrifices they made to be where they are. Instead, they are frowned upon for standing out from their peers. Put this together with being a Christian and a woman, heaven forbid I would want to stand out. So, for the last 2 years I have been hiding.

I have known for a couple of years now that my work week needed to be divided in thirds. A third clients, a third online and the other third writing my book. So why have I been procrastinating? My darling husband challenged me and lovingly said “stop worrying about standing out, instead embrace being outstanding in your field and in your life so that you can continue to help others!”  Wow, the power of changing two little words around has given me the confidence to take this next step, I am no longer worrying about standing out, instead I am going to be outstanding. This is my time to shine. The world needs wise woman (and men) as sages, for too long we have silenced them and put too much value on youth, we just need to look at how much advertising and products are available to help us look and feel younger. Instead, we should be embracing our wrinkles which give our face expression, from laughter lines to the softness of our face which radiate love, patience and acceptance. I am of an age to embrace the Wise-woman, the Sage, so I can help others journey through life stages from child to maiden/warrior, wife/husband to mother/father to wise-woman/men. The world needs the wisdom of the Sages.  For me becoming the Sage has meant learning to incorporate psychology, theology, philosophy and spirituality into my day-to-day life. (Definition in footnotes). To be a Sage one requires knowledge and experience combined with curiosity of the unknown. To be a wise sage one has failed enough to be humble and has overcame enough to inspire.  

The vision I had of me teaching materialised at the 2019 Asia Pacific Rim Confederation of Counselling Conference where I presented as Expert Speaker on  Fostering Healthy Relationships; The Dance of Intimacy. This was recorded by the Mental Health Academy and is online with the following Expert Bio. Lyn Baird is the Founding Executive Director, Life Bridge Counselling & Psychology has a Masters in Counselling and a Graduate Diploma of Business Administration. She has had management experience of more than 35 years in Community, Education and Health sector, has a successful counselling business and sits on a not-for-profit board that offers Supported Accommodation for Women and Children in Crisis. She has also been training accredited course both in Australia and overseas for the last 20 years. Lyn career began as a Registered Nurse. She has worked as Counsellor for the past 20 years, she is Level 4 member of the Australian Counselling Association (ACA) and recognized provider for  Counselling for those with Private Health Insurance. She is a registered supervisor and specializes in Grief & loss, Childhood Trauma and Relationship Counselling being L3 Gottman Relationship accredited. 

When did I become that person?  Why has it taken me another two years to embrace being the WiseWoman/Sage?  Why have I been hiding? Honestly It was because I knew there was an aspect of me that needed further training  and development. I needed to learn the ways of the mystics, the gnostics, the saints and embrace old spiritual practices. 

By choosing to be guided by each life-map image I have made decisions and invested into those areas of my life. If I was being called to preach in a Church, I needed to study, I needed to volunteer at my local church and be an active member of the congregation and that is what I did. I volunteered as a Sunday School teacher, then as a Women’s Leader and then I was employed as a Community Care Pastor. I studied a Diploma in Christian Counselling and Family Therapy and I went on to do a Masters in Counselling majoring in Pastoral Counselling and the hardest thing of all, I left Nursing. Since I was 11yrs old all I want to be was a nurse. I had made an inner vow, that I would know what to do if I was ever at an accident scene again. I joined St Johns Ambulance Brigade and became the top NSW cadet and by the time I was 14yrs old I wrote to all the top training hospitals in Melbourne to let them know in 4 years time I would like to enrol. I was very determined and not once did I stop to think there could be another path. It was 8 years after the Angels visit before I started to think of preaching and teaching as a career. We had moved to Queensland, our family was expanding, I was volunteering at church and working as a Registered Nurse. Wasn’t that enough? Then God’s voice interrupted my life saying ‘ I have had not called you to be a Nurse, you have the gift to see the pain in other peoples eyes. Another path was to be my destiny. He said “I was to be a rainbow of hope from His caring heart to those who were hurting.” He wanted me to bring hope, identity and purpose. This became the name of the first course I wrote and facilitated, the HIP program was implemented in schools across the Sunshine Coast and Wide Bay Burnett Area and I am proud to say that this course helped over four thousand youth over a seven year period. My career as a counsellor had began I was asked to teach where I had obtained my Diploma at the Australian Institute of Family Counselling. I continued Training in the Community, Business and Leadership sector till 2019, the highlight being the amazing privilege to teach Prayer Counselling to Students whilst they undertook a Pilgrimage to follow Jesus’s footsteps in Israel or St Paul’s in Greece. The Life road map of the vision preaching, was in Greece. There was no way I could have envisioned any of this. I simply said yes to opportunities that aligned with my Life’s road Map, I needed to embrace change, let go of doing things my way and learn. As Gene Mauch states You can‘t lead anyone else further than you have gone yourself et al. When I went on my own forty day pilgrimage little did I know that six months later, I would be given the opportunity to take student’s overseas to study and assist facilitating their own spiritual pilgrimage. I am grateful for the decisions and the sacrifices I have made along my journey as I would have never had the opportunity to live such an exciting life. Yes I miss Nursing, but tomorrow I will share more about how I was and still am able to be part of the Nursing Community.

Definitions:

Psychology is the scientific study of mind and behavior. Psychology includes the study of conscious and unconscious phenomena, including feelings and thoughts. It is an academic discipline of immense scope, crossing the boundaries between the natural and social sciences 

Theology is the systematic study of the nature of the divine and, more broadly, of religious belief. It is taught as an academic discipline, typically in universities and seminaries 

Philosophy is the study of general and fundamental questions, such as those about existence, reason, knowledge, values, mind, and language. 

Spirituality  refer to a subjective experience of a sacred dimension and the “deepest values and meanings by which people live” often in a context separate from organized religious institutions. This may involve belief in the supernatural realm beyond the ordinarily observable world, personal growth ,a quest for an ultimate or sacred meaning and religious experience or an encounter with one’s own “inner dimension.” 

2 thoughts on “Becoming the Sage

    1. Hi Trish, Thanks I am enjoying the challenge of writing them and the the next challenge of pasting them. Have you been able to get back home?

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